Learn to manage your anger with these simple tips

Situations where a lot of stress and anger accumulate can cause health , psychological and social problems , so learn to manage your anger!

 

Maria Magdalena Egozcue , author of the book First psychological aid , explains that there are two ways in which anger tends to present itself: to resolve or to destroy, and with which one reacts in four different ways when there is a high level of stress :

 

1. expression of courage
2. consciously suppress it
3. repress it unconsciously
4. reflect calmly

 

When we express our anger , it is when the circumstances of verbal or physical aggression  are presented to the person who offended us, usually we also "deny or withdraw" some benefit or in some cases, which translates into our revenge .

When we are in a state of frustration and anger , something happens, according to the author, called displaced aggression , it occurs when we remain silent about the event that upset us and unload it (the famous revenge ) on another person who is not to blame.

 

It is important to point out that not all of them act aggressively , some discuss the fact that caused the annoyance and do not show any hostility .

 

In the case of consciously suppressing anger , the psychotherapist comments that it is carried out when the subject, with high stress , is aware that they will inhibit that feeling, just the opposite of suppressing it, which is a process that is not recommended. , because that anger could cause nervous problems or disappointments with those around you .

 

Avoid conflicts and control your anger

 

The most important thing in a stress situation , specifically when we find ourselves in a traffic jam, is to regain emotional balance , which will help us find short- and long-term solutions to the problem , in addition to correcting injustices and planning preventive measures. that we can apply in the future.

 

To achieve balance , we leave you the following tips :

 

• Before acting on our behalf, it is necessary to ask ourselves questions such as: Am I really angry? Who am I angry with? What do I gain by reacting aggressively?
• Talk directly to the person causing the anger without being hostile. Most of the time, when going through traffic, we make words with someone who wanted to overtake or hit your car in an uphill manner and annoys us, we just go to him or her without thinking that they may be in the same dilemma as us, and we start yelling or offending, which only causes increased stress and possibly even  aggression .
• If we are in a case of extreme alteration, an important tip is to talk to someone who is not involved. If we have a very important appointment, it is advisable to get in touch with the person, explain the situation and agree on a solution, either running it on schedule or, in extreme cases, canceling it.
• Let's put ourselves in the other person's place. If we have an altercation with another driver, let 's be empathetic and try to assume the responsibility that falls to us.

 

Avoiding physical or emotional violence is the primary objective of controlling anger , in addition to the problems it may cause us.

 

Putting our ideas in order and remembering that someone is waiting for us at home is essential to channel negative energy . You don't have to put your integrity or that of your family at risk! Therefore, think before you act .